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Poly or Non-Monogamy-Affirming Therapy

Those who identify as polyamorous "poly" or are engaged in different forms of non-monogamous relationships often hide this part of their identity out of fear of being judged, stigmatized, discriminated against or simply misunderstood. In a culture that values monogamy and coupledom - stepping outside of the norm can be scary. It can be difficult to find a therapist who is competent, sensitive, and supportive to your concerns. 

As a sex-positive therapist, I believe that safe, consensual sex is a healthy, natural, exquisite part of the human experience. My sex therapy philosophy supports and encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation.

Forms of non-monogamy include, but are not limited to:

  • Polyamory or "poly"
  • Monogom-ish
  • Open marriage or open relationships
  • Swinging
  • Casual relationships or "flings"

As a non-monogamy-affirming therapist, I will not try to encourage you to change your lifestyle. I support the opportunities for personal growth and reflection that non-monogamy brings and recognize its difficulties and challenges as well. 

I can offer you a sensitive, non-judgmental and supportive approach to create a safe framework to talk about your concerns. I provide a strong commitment to confidentiality always, and especially when working through intimate information. Examples of issues I can assist with include:

  • Navigating changes in sexual identity or orientation
  • Working through sexual health concerns
  • Helping individuals and partners decide what type of non-monogamy works best for them
  • Helping individuals and partners negotiate the agreements and boundaries of their relationships
  • Working through the "coming out" process if/when the person is ready
  • Creating sustainable polyamory
  • Managing jealousy
  • Improving communication
  • Managing time commitments and varying schedules
  • Understanding cultural differences and exploring power dynamics
  • Working through infidelity, betrayal and broken trust

As a sex-positive, LGBTQIA-affirming therapist, I want you to have a healthy, rewarding and fulfilling sex life. If you and/or your partner(s) would like help and support in this area, let's talk today.